We spent a lovely and lazy weekend at home – which was very nice. Lots of drawing, singing, playing and doing nothing at all. That maybe is why I hardly took any pictures – but at least there are some snapshots that I’d love to share.
Breakfast time! We just love our homemade bread, that really is better than any bread we tried before. And it’s so simple and cheap, too!
Besides: “Flour” was one of our toddler’s first words…
I have been watching these buds for days – yearning for the first blossoms.
So this morning I was so thrilled to see the first one of them! And don’t you just love those?
Our home-grown parsley, however, doesn’t look so good after all…
Anyways, what else have we done on this lovely lazy weekend?
Of course we had very simple yet delicious meals that we enjoyed together…
… somehow this goat appeared to be our special guest. I think I know who invited her…
… and we shared some beautiful creative moments. Our toddler loves bears.
And who says you can only draw on drawing paper?
The most precious moment, however, (that I don’t have a picture of, though) was in church when our toddler insisted on blessing the whole family with holy water…
How was your weekend?
Just last week I pointed out what Unschooling is all about. This week I want to discuss why I consider unschooling as deeply Christian.
Yes, that’s right, I think unschooling is a Christian thing to do!
How is that? you might ask.
Well, let me point that out to you: As parents we are rewarded with the most precious gift you can get – our children. They are given to us by God – and they are given to us in trust. They are created in the image of God, not in our own image or in the image of society or culture.
Our children are not unfinished beings who have to be shaped and finished by us in order to fit in. They are little persons who we are fortunate to get to know and who we can learn from. They will also learn from us and they will be shaped by us just as we will be shaped by them – but that’s not the point. The point is we can learn learn together, grow together, draw closer to God together.
So what’s our job as parents, really? Do we have to shape them – for society, workplace, culture? God? Or will it suffice to model our values to them? Will God do the rest? Do we trust him enough to let him do the rest?
Don’t get me wrong here: I’m not saying every Christian family has to unschool their children. And I’m also most definitely not promoting any kind of permissive parenting style!
All I’m saying is that God gave us our children in trust – so we should trust our children and trust God and model that trust in our families. A beautiful way to do that is a need-oriented unschooling parenting style. It’s not the only possible way and it’s not the answer to all questions but it’s a great path you can choose for your family in order to honor God’s trust in you as parents.
This was one hot spring weekend – and although we usually don’t enjoy heat that much we had a great time as a family. We enjoyed having family and friends over for a time full of laughter, good food, good talks and playground time.
In our family we have a tradition that is very dear to us: Our guest book. Every guest that we have who spends at least one night at our house gets to write something fun, wise or subtle into our book. Some of our guests prefer to draw something, which is also nice.
Nap time can be hard, though, in a family with two kids who hate hot weather. I doubt that anyone will ever fully understand how thankful I am for my book of hymns in these moments. It is definitely the greatest thing that keeps me calm while singing my children to sleep – for hours if necessary…
Books really are important to us. So you won’t be surprised to hear that my toddler gets very excited when I’m studying my bible, right?
Anyway, we spent a lot of time outside on the playground which was neat as always – especially since we all love being barefoot…
… and getting some rest.
Other than that I can’t spare you my blossoms pictures – you know how much I love them…
How was your weekend?
I think most of us have heard about unschooling. In case you haven’t: Unschooling is a certain concept of homeschooling that focuses on natural or life learning. Unschooled children are allowed to learn self-determined and self-regulated. That sounds interesting, right?
But what does that mean in practice?
And more importantly for a family with very young children: When and how does unschooling start?
Unschooling starts when your child is born, maybe even before he is born. Natural learning just happens because your child is eager to learn. Children are never not learning. And they do learn a lot, don’t they?
In his first years a child learns to sit, to walk, to speak and to do so many other things – without really being taught. You don’t teach your child how to walk, learning to walk is a natural learning process. Unschoolers think that basically everything you learn can be learned in such a natural learning process. Children have their own learning goals – and they pursue them. If we let them.
Children are intrinsically motivated to explore the world and to learn so many things – basically everything they really need to. We as parents, however, have to learn to trust them in what they are doing. That’s what unschooling is all about.
You don’t really start unschooling. Unschooling is a process that comes naturally as soon as your child is born – maybe even before birth. The question is if you stop that natural learning process one day to school your child – or not.
There are different unschooling approaches. Some parents do use classical learning materials in a sort of “prepared environment”. That means they hardly regulate their children’s learning processes, but they do offer learning materials and a prepared learning environment in order to take stock of their children’s state of knowledge. And sometimes they even seek to inspire their children to deal with domains they don’t love too much.
Radical unschooling, however, doesn’t instruct or regulate at all. There is no prepared environment or school materials unless the children utterly demand them.
How do you feel about unschooling?
Since 2012 there is a huge controversy regarding Attachment Parenting (AP) in the English speaking part of the world which was caused by a cover picture on Time magazine that showed a Mom breastfeeding her almost 4-year-old child.
But what is AP after all and why would anybody breastfeed a 4-year-old?
AP – or as we call it “need-oriented parenting” – is a parenting style that focuses a lot on meeting a child’s needs and being empathetic and responsive in order to establish a strong mother-child-bond. This bond between mother and child – also called “attachment” – is crucial for a child’s healthy personal development.
Therefore many parents who practice AP choose (longterm) breastfeeding, babywearing, co-sleeping, cloth diapers or elimination communication, homeschooling or even unschooling, organic home-made food and gentle discipline. AP is a highly communicative parenting approach.
In the US AP is widely regarded as a mainly Christian parenting style, whereas Europeans tend to assume AP to be a secular parenting approach. Feminists often criticize AP as “New Momism” which promotes role models that should be overcome by now – but maybe a child’s needs and his personal development should be more important than social ideologies…
To us as parents the main reason for bringing our children up in an AP way of life is this:
Certainly sons are a gift from the Lord,
the fruit of the womb, a reward.
~ Psalms 127:3
Our children are a gift and a blessing from God – so we should treat them as the gift they are. How would you treat a gift that is very precious to you? We decided we wanted our kids to grow up in a family that grants them love, respect, trust, emotional security, warmth, protection, happiness and the freedom to just be who they are.
That’s why we chose this parenting style.
Our weekend has been a wonderful spring weekend. Most of the time we have been outside enjoying the sunshine, beautiful spring blossoms and every now and then a family picnic. But why don’t you see for yourself:
I adore spring blossoms, so most of the pictures I took this weekend were blossoms pictures.
I also love this special shade of green that leaves only have in May:
Other than that we enjoyed several picnics out in the garden and in the park. Spring is such a wonderful season, I love it so much more than summer, because it isn’t so hot.
If you are already a regular reader of this blog you won’t be surprised to read that OF COURSE we baked a cake that we took with us to our picnics.
By the way raisins are perfect if you don’t want your children to eat a lot of sugar. They are kind of “healthy candy”.
Our kids enjoyed being outside, too. Playing outside is so much more fun, than staying inside.
How was your weekend?
Are you curious how blogging with two kids under two works? Does it work at all?
Well, obviously it does. Or at least: Most times it does.
Like we pointed out in one earlier post you need both a lot of structure and flexibility to get anything done. There are really tons of things that need to be done! Cooking, laundry, cleaning, putting away things, grocery shopping – you name it. And not to forget playing, singing, cuddling, book reading, painting, crafting – let’s just say Mom is never bored in our family!
So how do you schedule all that plus blogging?
Actually Mom basically uses the time when both kids are asleep to blog. It strongly depends on how long both little ones nap how much she can get done. Since Mom really loves to write, she can write a lot in just a very short amount of time. Somehow it works and most time it isn’t even that hard.